More Than Shower Thoughts

Because some thoughts deserve more than a rinse and repeat

  • The People Who Think Before They Speak (and the Ones Who Don’t)

    I’ve always believed there are two types of people in the world: people who speak before they think and people who think before they speak. But there’s also a strange gray space where some of us live — people who somehow manage to do both, usually at the worst possible time. I am one of…

  • The Quiet Grief of Outgrowing a Church

    Matt and I found a church we loved in 2018. The messages were funny and easy to follow. The worship team made every Sunday feel like a concert, and I felt genuinely welcomed by everyone. At the time, I had recently been diagnosed with depression and was working through PTSD from past trauma. When I…

  • People I’ve Had Full Arguments With… In My Head

    The car is where I settle fights. Sometimes the shower too. Jenessa is my alter ego, and she settles my scores — just on a delay. There’s usually a gap between when someone says something offensive and when I think of what I should’ve said. Thanks to her, it can take me five to ten…

  • The Weight of Feeling Everything

    The car seat is Liam’s arch nemesis. Getting him into it can set him off. It doesn’t matter if we’ve had a wonderful day or if school went well. If he doesn’t want to sit in that seat, the entire moment unravels. I hate pinning him down. He’s strong. The screaming builds, and it turns…

  • Finding Faith in the Ordinary Moments I Used to Rush Through

    Small wins are BIG wins.” The kind of life mantra that probably needs to be tattooed on my forehead. I’ve heard it for years. Liam is four years old. He has Down syndrome and autism. Liam was born in October of 2017. He had complications with breathing that required oxygen support, and he spent the…